I'm not really convinced by Dennis Perkins' argument given on the "Let go of your guilt" section. I feel that that it is important to put it behind, but at the same time keep it close. This is because I believe letting it go is absolutely opposite of learning from it. Putting a lid on your fears and traumas, while hiding them in a corner will not take you anywhere. It is more important to face them head-on, struggle, and learn to overcome. This is not easily said than done, but I think these are the places our friends and teammates can help us. A lone-isolated leader does not gather affection and teamwork. A talkative and sympathetic one does.
I was also really confused by the example of Joe and Simon climbing a mountain. If Yates did indeed let go of his guilt and decided to break camp as scheduled, I am sure that Simpson would not have made it back in time. It was indeed the feeling of guilt that Yates could not overcome, which lead to Simpson's survival. I had liked this book so far, but I'm starting to get a little skeptical on some aspects of the book.
I have mixed feelings about this statement too. "Letting go" is a wrong term I think. Letting go means to forget completely and not build upon what you have done, which essentially leads to not getting anything constructive out of it. It is true that lingering on guilt may not lead you anywhere, but what is important I feel is to keep that guilt in mind for future performance. Getting past guilt is surely important, but we must always reflect on our actions and learn from them.
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